Presentation: Table Talk Plus as an outgrowth of How to Do Happy Better.
Notes posted here are not in order of presentation.
UWM Hefter Center
This building, formerly known as Marietta house, belongs to the University of Wisconsin–Milwaukee and is home to conferences, special events, and some of the courses of the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute at the University of Wisconsin–Milwaukee.
Happy / Steak Dinner
Steak dinner includes …
drinks, appetizers, sides, butter,
dessert, ambience, companionship
Happy includes …
peace, joy, contentment,
awe and wonder.
– Sally the Psychic called me a healer
– R.A.R.E. – recognition, attention, respect, encouragement
Thank You – Keep up the Good Work
Encouraging – Listening – Acknowledging – Asking
Medical College grad students thanking me for listening to them and indicating the rarity of it.
Placebo and Zeebo – Honest Placebo Pills Designed to Help You Create a Safe Experience on Your Path to Well-being
Mani-Pedi? Massage? Acupuncture? Acupressure?Reflexology? Reiki?
My recent reading
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
The Intention Experiment: Using Your Thoughts to Change Your Life and the World
by Lynne McTaggart
Biocentrism: How Life and Consciousness are the Keys to Understanding the True Nature of the Universe – by Robert Lanza
Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie
Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life by Richard Rohr
Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert
A Complaint Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanted by Will Bowen
The Hidden Messages in Water by Masaru Emoto
Yoga for Pain Relief by Kelly McGonigal
Diary, Captain’s Log, Cookbook: Recipes of my Life … take time for yourself
Table Talk Plus is a workbook, a chance to sit down with yourself, in a small group and work on yourself. Who would be interested in such an opportunity for 3 or 4 weeks?
Talk Talk Talk. Advice. Coaching. Counseling. Therapy. Sitting is the new cancer. Stress resides in the body. Animals shake it off. The language of the body needs to be re-experienced. Mindfulness is key. Movement is key.
Table Talk Plus = Talk, co-creative, rejuvenating activities, proximity, multi-modal, (oils, clay, crystals, paints, touch, reiki, reflexology, jin shin jyutsu, EFT, hugs, hands-on-hearts).
The Hug – 3 or 4 breaths. Stand. Hold. Breathe. Be present. No patting, slapping, squeezing, or groping. Small group, or one-to-one might include movement; walk and talk, stretch, free dance, forest bathing, earth grounding. Gong. Sing. Chant.
Alphabet Zoupe = my life metaphor
Soup as sustenance. Food for thought.
= all the letters, numbers, and punctation on the English language with which we describe our reality. The map is not the terrain. The description is the description.
Therapeutic Linguistics = choosing good words
M.Yoga – me, myself and mine.
Flipping definitions – Change. The World? – My world. More possible.
Yoga? Problem with the definition? Flip it. Call it CBS: careful breathing and stretching. Mindfulness? How about heart-ful-ness? Or combining the two? Carefulness. Ah: caring.
Change your mind. We say: “people don’t like change”. We like it more when we initiate. Sing. Dance. Laugh. Move. What if the work turns out to be play?
Activities per Osher catalog
– Big Dipper, hand labyrinth, prayer, mudras, EFT (tapping master points while repeating positive thoughts.), twig acupressure.
“There isn’t time – so brief is life – from bickering, apologies, heartburning, callings to account. There is only time for loving – and but an instant, so to speak, for that.” Mark Twain.
Top ten self help books
Amazon, Goodreads, Reader’s Digest, etc.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
As a Man Thinketh by James Allen
The Road Less Traveled by M Scott Peck
The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
How to Do Happy Better, or How to Do Unhappy Less Often
It is my take on the self-help publishing industry. Write your own book. Simple.
What do you want? Write it down. Start with a three column page: Yes. No. Maybe so. (add a page for everything you already have that you would like to keep.) Gratitude?
Rather than focus on Happy let’s take a look at reducing unhappy;
complaining, self-talk as verbal abuse, other abuse, anxiety, stress, depression, PTSD.
Some of us get a little reward by being stuck. Examine that.
Many, if not all, of the self-help authors advise the reader to keep a journal. Sit down. Write. Take time for yourself. Your self. What do you think/feel? The diary, journal, captain’s log, cookbook, whatever you call it, it is not a book for publication. The editing is simple; as long as you can read it, that’s enough.
The Intention Experiment
The observer effect in quantum experimentation gives rise to another heretical notion: that living consciousness is somehow central to this process of transforming the unconstructed quantum world into something resembling every day reality. It suggests not only that the observer brings the observed into being, but also that nothing in the universe exists as an actual thing independently of our perception of it.
It implies that observation, the very involvement of consciousness, gets the Jell-O to set. It implies that reality is not fixed, but fluid, or mutable, and hence possibly open to influence. from The Intention Experiment by Lynne McTaggart.
A Complaint Free World by Will Bowen
“As though hast believed, so be it done onto thee.” – Jesus, Matthew 8:13
“The universe is changed; our life is what our thoughts make it.” – Marcus Aurelius
“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think.” – Buddha
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” – Norman Vincent peel
“You are today were your thoughts have brought you; he will be tomorrow where your thoughts teach you.” – James Allen, of as a man think it so he shall be.
“We become what we think about.” – Earl Nightingale
“The highest possible stage in moral culture is when we recognize that we ought to control our thoughts.” – Charles Darwin
“Man invented language to satisfy his deep need to complain.” – Lily Tomlin
“A complaint free world is in engaging, enjoyable, easy to read reminder that the only permanent, constructs of changes that you can make in the world are the changes that you make in your self.” – Gary Zukav
Gong – Sound – Music – Chanting – Breathing
I was told I couldn’t sing. Actually, I can sing. You may not like it. That’s a totally separate issue. I was told I was shy. I didn’t realize the difference until I was in my 40s. I might be introverted.
“Words are the fog one has to see through.” Zen saying
“We talk about how many women were raped last year, not how many men raped women. We talk about how many girls in the school district were harassed last year, not about how many boys harassed girls. We talk about how many teenage girls got pregnant last year rather than how many boys and men impregnated teenage girls.
So you can see how the use of the passive voice has a political affect it shift the focus off of men and boys in onto girls and women. Even the term ‘violence against women’ is problematic. It’s a passive construction; there’s no active agent in the sentence. It’s a bad thing that happens to women, but when you look at that term violence against women, nobody is doing it to them. It just happens to them. Men aren’t even a part of it.“– Jackson Katz
Online at: Do Happy Better .com are links to the books I mentioned.
It is my take on the self-help publishing industry. Write your own book. Simple.
What do you want? Write it down.
Start with a three column page: Yes. No. Maybe so. Add another page for things you already have and wish to keep. Call it Gratitude.
“A writer only begins a book. A reader finishes it.” – Samuel Johnson
And a presenter offers ideas. Each listener hears what they hear.
Analyze. Examine. Diagnose. Investigate. Upgrade your expertise.
Shuttle Talk – Praise. Thank you. Keep up the good work. R.A.R.E. Recognition. Attention. Respect. Encouragement. Low agenda. Limited time frame. Conversation.